Parenting in 21st Century

The stresses and strains of family life can cause distressing family dynamics can greatly interfere with the functioning of every family member, including extended family, although those living in the same household are likely to be impacted more significantly than those who live apart. When family members do not get along, the tension can impact each family member’s mental and physical health, relationships, and even impact on his or her capacity for routine tasks. Family tensions and conflicts may impact on children, and cause children to’ act out.’Family conflicts and difficulties can be evidenced in children’s behaviour through dramatic behavioural shifts in behaviour, mood swings and depression, or through acting-out behaviour such as tantrums which are not age appropriate. Parents are the main influence on a child’s feelings and actions, and tensions at home, or in their relationship can impact their child. However, other issues such as the death of a parent/family member or pet, moving house or school and bullying can all lead to negative changes in a child’s behaviour.

Sometimes, when a child ‘acts out, they can become the ‘problem child, and all the parents’ energy is focused on the child. This can serve as a distraction from the parents’ own problems, but feeling that they are the ‘problem chid’ can impact negatively on children, as children develop and define their sense of self by processing what others tell them about who they are, what they are good at, and how they behave.

When children are consistently behaving negatively, Family Therapy can help to address both verbal and nonverbal styles of communication in the family, which may be impacting on the child’s behaviour. Through Family Therapy, families can learn to understand one another better, communicate more effectively, and work together to disrupt unhealthy patterns, all of which will encourage family cohesiveness.

Family therapy is designed to help families collaborate to address family problems. The course of treatment is often brief, and most family therapy models seek to address the communication (verbal and nonverbal) styles of the family, as well as any individual issues that may be interfering with the closeness of the family. Family problems do not have to be severe to warrant therapy. Working with a therapist, families can expect to learn to understand one another better, communicate more effectively, and work proactively to disrupt unhealthy patterns of communication, all of which will encourage family cohesiveness..